Over the past couple of months there have been times when I couldn’t even think of anything positive at all and wasn’t in the best of places, but there is one thing for sure and that is I have come to the conclusion there is always a silver lining in what ever the situation is or how bad it can be.
“You’re a Diamond Dear, they can’t break you”
I am a huge sufferer of anxiety and this can be difficult at times with people looking at you in certain ways or saying negative comments. But I have learnt that sometimes just taking a moment to breathe can make a huge of a difference to your state of mind.
Don’t get me wrong I need to go to external parties to help me with my anxiety/issues as these are something which are a little deeper than just having a bad day. However, there are things I do myself to help with mindfulness and keep me going when I feel like enough is enough…
This is not just for children anymore you can even get ones with swearwords if this makes you feel better. You will be surprised at how much of a difference this can make.
Writing your feelings down.
If I am feeling over whelmed I will write letters to friends or family, but most of the time I will just sit and write until everything I am feeling it rushing through my fingers onto the computer. You don’t half feel better after.
Watching a film.
When I say watching a film this has to be something you are interested in, so for me it will be a psychological horror or I will just find a documentary on ghosts. Wooooo scary!!
I know I thought it was a load of rubbish to start with but I have to say this has made such a difference to me just by focusing on my breathing and let me take my mind of everything. I suffer with anxiety worse at night so I will do this just before bed and I always end up having the best nights sleep. One of the apps I use on my iPhone is Headspace and it’s amazing.
But if you’re doing this at night don’t read from your phone. It’s not good for winding down. I would recommend that you get a magazine or a good book which you can sink your teeth into. It will make all the difference, I have never been much of a reader but this has really turned a corner for me and has made me appreciate those times when I can sit back in silence with a book. No more random television programmes.
These are all ways you can stay positive and really do some mindfulness work. The best thing to do though if you’re having a bad day is right all the things you have going for you, it could be something as simple as having a great bunch of friends around you. Don’t let the bad mood beat you down and keep going, life is far too short you never know whats around the corner. You want to be as positive as you can be to make sure that you can live your life to the full and don’t let anyone get you down.
If people do try to get you down you just want to mental tell them to do one as your made of stronger stuff than to let them get you down and most of the time its their own insecurities coming out which you are being targeted with. Don’t let them see they have defeated you as no-one deserves to be made to feel bad about themselves because someone else is having a hard time or just is a nasty piece of work. Trust me I have been there and if you let them get to you down, its hard to let it go… 10 years on and I still hear those bullies telling me I am worthless and fat. It’s hard to escape.. you need/must stay positive to get the best out of the life you have been given!
What do you do to help with mindfulness and staying positive?