Now I am sure this is something we are all too familiar with especially those suffering with mental health as this is the one that kick you right in your teeth… it does me anyways!
Anxiety is one of the most common mental health problems and affects most people however, this is normal but those who suffer with severe anxiety, it can change their whole life. It can stop us doing the things we love and lose sight of who we actually are… which is so hard to find yourself again after… I am still in the process of this as we speak. So when I say this is the most common mental health problem the stats kind of prove this… 300 000 young people in Britain alone have an anxiety disorder and lots of people suffer in silence! This is where we need to be brave enough to speak out and stop the stigma that surrounds it…. no more “just get on with it!” this doesn’t work, if it did I would have been cured a long time ago and I am sure many of you can agree with me!
So I am sure there are some people who aren’t really sure what anxiety can feel like well here are a few examples what most of us suffering feel like a day-to-day basis.
- Shortness of breath
- Heart thumping
- Speech becomes more speedy or slow
This is just our body… our minds is a different story
- Unable to relax
- Not able to concentrate
- I find I feel as though I want to run away to my safe space …I am sure we all have one
A lot of this is caused by when we feel as though we are in danger our brains go into flight or fight.. which I am sure we are all too familiar with.
When we think of anxiety we seem to pigeon-hole it a little and the thing is that there are so many types of anxieties, we can suffer from more than one! So it’s not just a case you have one and you learn to get on with, if only things were that simple in life aye?
Some of the different anxieties include; Fears and Phobias, General anxiety, Separation anxiety, social anxiety, panic disorder and other. I will go into more details in regards to these on another post as we could be here all day!
I will let you know one of my biggest anxieties and it may seem little to you but its a huge thing for me! I suffer with anxiety the most when going to sleep… sounds odd I know. However, I have a fear of waking up and something bad happening. I have had a fair few occasions of loved ones close to me who have been very poorly or have been taken away, this has always seemed to of happened while I was a sleep. So my body/mind goes into panic/overdrive as soon as I try to go to sleep at night and this is something I am trying to work on every day and have to take some medication to help me calm down. I can lie in bed for hours feeling like I can’t breathe; its like a ball in lodged in my throat and no matter what I do it just won’t go away and becomes very painful after a good 30 minutes or so. I will be in sweats and my mind going 10000 miles per hour so I’m not able to calm myself down or talk some sense into myself. When I do eventually get to sleep after a few hours I am awake dripping with sweat not knowing what’s happening, it can be due to night terrors or just the fear of something in general happening.
It may seem like a little thing to most people but for me this is a challenge I fight most nights, don’t get me wrong I don’t have this issue every night and the more work I have put in the less often it’s happening. This is the thing with anxiety it needs a lot of work to try to get to the bottom of. Nothing is ever easy in life I am sure most of you will agree with me on that!
We always hope that we will grow out of these things well the truth it some people do… those lucky souls! But not everyone will but with talking to the right people it can become more bearable within your day-to-day life and they say it is treatable, so there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.
What can you do to help your anxiety?
There is a lot more than you think which can help with your anxiety but is a lot easier said then done and you will need to the support of your friends and family.
- The most important one I think and that is because I find myself doing this a lot is not picking up other people’s problems and worries, as it is unnecessary. When you are dealing with your own problem this is the last thing you need. It doesn’t help burning the candle at both ends trust me and it will only make you feel better for a short period of time.
- You want to get the support from friends and family, this can be a huge help especially when putting yourself in a situation you find very challenging. You can even speak to someone you don’t know about these things so it could be a colleague, a therapist, a school teacher, a mentor or just someone who might understand.
- Allow yourself time to get use to changes, a lot of changes happen throughout our lifetime and we just try to get on with them and carry on as normal. This doesn’t do us any good and will affect our anxieties and mental state. Allow yourself time to adjust as change can be difficult.
I have included a little contact form below, if you do want to share with me your experiences as it is always nice to hear other people’s experiences as I am sure you are fed up of mine by now. They don’t have to be shared on here and can be anonymous if you want them to, just make sure you advise if you want sharing or not :).